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Top 5 Tips for maintaining Financial Sanity after a Divorce: #1 - Get Help from Professionals: It’s important to only take legal and financial advice from a lawyer and a trusted financial professional. They will be able to objectively help you through your particular situation with the most effective and beneficial advice and strategies. #2 - Close Joint Credit Accounts Once you have filed for divorce, it’s important to cease accruing debt in both of your names. By continuing to rack up joint debt you could end up doing more damage to your credit scores and credit reports and subsequently complicating the divorce process. #3 - Create a budget: Going from a two-income household to a single income is a major transition. If you haven’t adhered to a budget in the past, a divorce is a compelling reason to start doing so immediately. Make sure to outline everything, including both daily and monthly expenses, and long-term expenses including retirement and tuition funds. #4 - Update wills, nominations, and powers of attorney: It’s not uncommon for a spouse to serve the role of power of attorney, medical power of attorney and beneficiary to a will. If you have designated your spouse as any of these things, it’s important to update all of these to reflect the new person or people you’d like to appoint to fulfill these roles. #5 - Get savvy in managing your finances: In many marriages, one spouse acts as the financial manager. That means they handle things like paying the bills, setting the budget, balancing the checkbook, filing annual tax returns, etc. If you are not the spouse that handled these things then you may have little or no knowledge of how to manage these things day to day.


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The amount of time your divorce will take depends on several factors: whether you and your spouse reach an agreement, whether each party cooperates in providing all necessary information, whether a trial is necessary, and court schedules. No one knows for sure how long a divorce will take because each case is very different, but the more agreements the parties are able to reach the quicker the case will be resolved. #lawyersofinstagram #divorcetips #familylaw #Edwardsvilleil #ofallonillinois #ofldowntowndistrict #jmlaw #618divorce #divorcedmoms #divorcelawyer #faqs #goalsetting #alwaysbeprepared #divorcerecovery #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #legaladvice #lawyerlife #attorney #divorcefaqs #letushelpyou


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Laura wrote to me about having been offered a promotion at work that would require her to move her out of state. She shares 50/50 custody of her son. Can she take the promotion? . In this "Ask a Divorce Coach" Q&A Podcast series, I give some insight on her situation. . For more information on how I can help you get through your divorce by saving you time and money, click the link in my bio. . #divorcerecovery #divorcecoach #divorced #divorcedmom #custody #children #coparenting #coparentingdoneright


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Most divorce attorneys charge by the hour, so the total cost depends on the amount of time it takes for your case to be resolved. You can help control the costs of your case by attempting to reach agreements directly with your spouse, by promptly providing all documents requested by your attorney, and by making sure to hire an attorney who won’t overcharge you. #lawyersofinstagram #divorcetips #familylaw #Edwardsvilleil #ofallonillinois #ofldowntowndistrict #jmlaw #618divorce #divorcedmoms #divorcelawyer #faqs #goalsetting #alwaysbeprepared #divorcerecovery #divorcesupport #divorcehelp #legaladvice #lawyerlife #attorney #divorcefaqs #letushelpyou


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It is at night when you are alone that all of the memories tend to take over your thoughts. When that happens, start replacing those thoughts with images of the new life you are building. Be specific as possible as you fall asleep seeing yourself in your new dreams, Beautiful 💖


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Love is not... • begging • strategizing • chasing • changing oneself • overthinking • living inauthentically • working for attention • jumping higher • asking to be heard • over reaching • drinking to endure • drinking to be fun • dropping values • tossing morals • self betraying • frantic energy 👉🏼 Codependency has a lot of unhealthy energy wrapped up in it. I liken it to being a little terrier that is chasing the heels of a bigger dog that can’t be bothered to turn around yet expects the terrier to keep trying. That’s like the dynamic of a narc and their partner. • 💡 In hindsight we see we tried and tried. Frantically and long suffering to the point of exhaustion. That was not love. We should not have to work at figuring out how to get someone to love us. • • • #divorcinganarcissist #npdawareness #healingabrokenheart #healingfromwithin #healingfromtrauma #hindsightis2020 #healingenergy #hearthealing #codependency #traumahealing #traumatherapy #traumarecovery #codependentnomore #divorcecoach #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #lessonslearnedinlife #lovelessons #emotionalabuse #betrayal #betrayed #betrayaltrauma #narcissisticabuse #narcrecovery #cheating #codependentnomore #divorcesupport #marriageproblems #marriageissues #marriagehelp #narcabuse


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Are you traveling in the direction you TRULY desire your business to go? Or, is something holding you back from having the business you dreamed of? Your inner child plays a HUGE role in how you show up in life and in business. She is craving your attention, love, and healing; without so, we will only continue to be held back. When will you decide that the time is now for you to finally Step Into Your Power? Don’t wait until your exhausted and on the edge of giving up. The next level of yourself is waiting, do her a favor and stop waiting. The clients who need your support are waiting, help them by going first on your healing journey. The doors are open, your time is NOW. Link in bio👉🏻


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Forgiveness-Exactly what does that mean?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do we pretend nothing happened?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Stuff our feelings?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Hate the person?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ No.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Forgiveness frees us from pain.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Divorce Care teaches forgiveness frees us from the offenses and injuries inflicted by someone who was supposed to love us. Maybe, even forgiving ourselves for inflicting offenses or injury against someone who expected our love.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Because we forgive a person, and reconcile with them, doesn’t mean we must be intimately involved again. Use wisdom.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Forgiveness doesn’t go hand-in-hand with trust.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Trust is earned, forgiveness is not.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Forgiveness is freely given—to be grant us freedom from pain.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What about God’s forgiveness of our offenses? He is not like us.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ He forgives to reconcile us with Him.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ He knows we are not trustworthy. He forgives us anyway.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ @divorcecare⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #instamakeoverfam⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #biblestudymoments⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #butfirstjesus⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #christianliving⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #christianinspiration⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #churchesofinstagram⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #divorced⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #divorcequotes⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #divorcerecovery⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #divorcesupport⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #encourager⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #faithhopelove⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #godheals⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #godswill⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #godsloveneverfails⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #godspromise⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #godspower⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #gracemakers⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #madewords⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #prayers⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #prayerful⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #prayerchangesthings⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #perseverance⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #quoteoftheday⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #quotes⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #quotestoinspire⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #quotesoftheday⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #wordbeforeworld⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #writingtime⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #writerofig


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Its Day 2 of the challenge and I noticed something that got me thinking. On day 1, people in the Facebook groups with whom I'm also sharing this journey were freely celebrating their parents, which was awesome. Yet, on day 2 which is geared towards celebrating and being Grateful for yourself, there were likes but only a few comments. So that got me like 🤔🤔🤔 • What do you think is the cause of this? • I think we tend to view others as being valuable assets in our lives but fail to see the value we bring to this world. I want to remind you that YOU ARE A GIFT TO THIS WORLD🎉 • Let's have a chat about this. • [Grab the FREE Prompt list for this 33x33 Gratitude Challenge from the link in bio]


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Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless.⠀ ---⠀ #justlifeevents #jle #justLE #think #instaquote #positivethinking #divorcesupport #divorcecoach #divorcerecovery #believe #childsupport #unhappiness #attorney #events #relationshipskills


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Narcissistic abuse IS trauma and suffering at the hands of a narcissist can leave you showing all the symptoms of complex PTSD and dissociation is usually a huge part of this feeling like you are here living your life but stuck in functional freeze. You can feel emotionally or even physically detached from your environment, experiencing disruptions in your memory, perceptions, consciousness and sense of self. Staring to sound familiar yet? Dissociation can lead to emotional numbing in the face of horrific circumstances. Mind-numbing activities, obsessions, keeping super busy, addictions and repression may become a way of life because they give you an escape from your current reality. Your brain finds ways to emotionally block out the impact of your pain so you do not have to deal with the full terror of your circumstances. Remember your brains primary role is to keep you safe and move you away from the biggest “perceived pain”. For me I self harmed with my toothpaste, making my thighs bleed in an attempt to focus on this pain as opposed to the alternative of thinking of the trauma of narcissistic abuse. My brain thought self harming was less painful than sitting in awareness of narcissistic abuse. Now of course cognitively, I was in pain BUT my brain thought this was less pain!! It thought it was protecting me and doing a great job!!! It was trying to protect my inner child wound of “I am not good enough”, and it wanted to do that at all costs!!! Complex-PTSD is actually an information processing disorder whereby you haven’t finished processing past trauma into the past so you still “feel” like yes still happening. It’s not the narcissist in your life making you feel the way you do, I know that may seem odd but hear me out!!!! It’s actually the negative belief you say to yourself about the narcissist treating you the way they do that causes the dysregulation so for me it wasn’t my ex husbands behaviour....... it was me saying to myself “I am not enough” when my ex husband acted in an abusive way. Dissociation is just another way to try and protect you from feeling the pain of a negative belief.


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The greatest expectation and ultimate objective of the codependency is for others to change. . . Codependents go far beyond the natural and healthy boundaries of love and compassion in their attempt to help others. . . They expect their love one to change due to their incessant efforts, but this change never happens, or does not last for more than three days; so consequently, the codependent is thrown into the swamp of failure time and time again. . . The behavior of the addict, or of those who they are attempting to change, remains intact or worsens, therefore, their expectations are not satisfied. . . This can cause deep roots of BITTERNESS, and even hatred in the codependent. Detachment makes us renounce our expectations. It is necessary for our healing and freedom that we realize that our love one belongs to God not to us, and it is wise for us to surrender that person into His hands. ****************************************************** #unbrokengenerations #codependency #reconciliation #innerwork #addictionrecovery #itsokaynottobeokay #recovery #mentalhealthawareness #mentalillness #emotionalwellness #mentalhealthmatters #divorcerecovery #abusedwomen #endthestigma #anxious #recoveryispossible #codependent #ccodependencyrecovery #selfdiscovery #vulnerability #mentalwellness #healingtrauma #nbrkn #codependentnomore #stressrelieving #dysfunctionalfamily #healingtrauma #recoverycommunity #recoverywarriors #selfawarenessjourney


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"✨Njuna ljubezen je vsako jutro žarela, čez dan grela naravo ter ob večerih ljudem na Zemlji ponujala najlepše sončne zahode, kar so jih kdaj videli.✨". Odlomek iz knjigice Zakaj Lunina vila in Sončni princ ne živita skupaj ❤ P.S. Ob nakupu knjige prejmete GRATIS dnevnik #woustar #divorce #love #family


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"Problems on relationships occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person" . . . These issues may arise between two lovers or between husband and wife.. but . . Misunderstanding is the root cause of the breakups and divorce and we don't want to get till there🙂 . . . Let us help you about what you're problems in your relationships.. DM 📝 us so that we could help you out♥️ . . . #alone #divorce #familylaw #healing #coparenting #divorced #separations #divorcecoach #divorcesupport #relationshipquotes #dontleavemealone #lovehurts #selflove #divorceadvice #divorcehelp #relationshipcoach #lovecoach #onlinecounselling #trustissues #relationshipproblems #onlinepsychologist #familytherapy #maritalcounseling #couplescounseling #divorcerecovery #divorced #gaithersburg #illinois #newyork #sanfrancisco


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I’m thinking it’s definitely a go BIG taco night on this TACO TUESDAY. . I mean what better way to celebrate more inches lost on myself and my wellness girls than one of my FAV meals⁉️ . What is your favorite taco Tuesday go-to? I’ll be doing Publix delivery later, and I’d love to try something new.🌮 Recioes and pics would be so appreciated!


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#livelearnpractice Do not be distracted by your pain. Breathe. Take care of your mental health today! Blackout Tuesday. See you next week.


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تتفقوا مع المقولة؟ أي تعليق؟ . . . . #أقوال #اقوال_وحكم #علم_نفس #علم_النفس #اقتباسات #اقتباس #حكم #حكمة_أعجبتني ##اقوال_الحكماء #الأطفال #التربية #حكم_تربوية #وعي #الطلاق #طلاق #الصحة_النفسية #العلاج_النفسي #تربية #تربية_الطفل #تربية_الأبناء #التشافي_من_الطلاق #نهاية_بداية #ريادة_اجتماعية #ريادة_الأعمال #divorce #divorcequotes #childrenofdivorce #quotes #roadmap #divorcerecovery


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Hang in there 🌸 #talkingishealing


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Stop what you are doing right now and send someone a text or give them a call. Let them know you are thinking about them right this second! Then ❤️ this post so everyone knows you are spreading the love! #divorcedgirlstanding #divorce #blendedfamily #divorcesupport #certifieddivorcecoach #divorcecoach #divorce #divorcerecovery #blendedfamily #coparenting #singleparenting #divorceresponseteam


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Patience is greatly tested in the divorce process. Maybe you have been there, or are there right now, waiting for a return call from your lawyer, for your spouse to file an answer, for the court to set a hearing date. Stress and exhaustion leave you feeling depleted and defeated. ⠀ 💔⠀ The pain, shame, anger, frustration that you feel can be so overwhelming that your gut reaction may be to get this over with as fast as you can, no matter the consequences, just to stop these feelings. ⠀ ⠀ 🛑STOP...⠀ ⠀ A moment of patience in a moment of anger saves you a hundred moments of regret.⠀ 💔⠀ Your divorce won’t last forever, you will get through it, and you will be okay. For now, be patient and take the necessary steps to set yourself up for a happier, healthier future. Trust me, you won't regret it. ⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #patiencequotes #powerfulwords #patienceisavirtue #patientlywaiting #patienceiskey #moveforward #lifelessonslearned #youllbeokay #anxiousmind #infidelityrecovery #divorcerecovery #toxicrelationships #healthyrelationships #boundaries #setboundaries #divorce #separated #divorced #yourdivorcecoach #divorcecoach #divorcehelp #divorcesupport #divorceadvice #divorceddad #divorcedmom #divorcedmoms #singlemomlife #divorcedlife #lifeafterdivorce #familylaw


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How have you noticed disconnection in your relationship?⁠ ⁠ Disconnection is painful. ⁠ And often traps couples in a vicious cycle that drives them further apart. ⁠ ⁠ Here are some signs you are stuck in a vicious cycle: ⁠ ⁠ 👉You or your partner avoid talking about things to keep the peace. ⁠ ⁠ 👉You or your partner walk away from conversations when overwhelmed. ⁠ ⁠ 👉Arguments turn you mean and critical towards each other. ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ It’s hard to get unstuck from relationship patterns. This is where couple therapy can help. ⁠ ⁠ Comment with a ❤️ if you have noticed these signs in relationships.⁠


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“We must learn to reawaken and keep ourselves awake, not by mechanical aids, but by an infinite expectation of the dawn...” - Henry David Thoreau #awakeandalive #sunisrising #joy #reclaimingjoy #growingstronger #singlemom #divorcerecovery #payingattention #runningismytherapy #before5am #faithisstrongerthanfear


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Maybe this is the whole point of any struggle you are going through. That the reason might not be clear but the result is: you becoming so strong that nothing will shatter you again. That you will be so unrelenting in honoring yourself and what you want. That you will no longer let fear and insecurities hold you back from the life you want to live and the love you want to have. No matter what comes your way, you are ready. Because you’ve already made it, even if it feels like you’re just starting to heal. And that, my friend, is worth any pain you’re enduring. Onward. #divorce #divorcecoach #divorcecoachforwomen #afterdivorce #divorcerecovery #divorcesupport #unbreakable #lifeafterdivorce #bounceback #datingafterdivorce #selflove #selfrespectquotes #strength #youarestrongerthanyouknow #insecurities #nomorefear


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I think I would have dinner with my Grandmom Lil. 💕 But a younger version of herself. I’d love to get more info on her childhood, young adult life, how she raised such a large family all by herself, and her family history. Who would you invite to dinner? 🤔. Comment down below!


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#MinuteToWinIt Parenting: Bite sized parenting tips.... . Michelle Gielan, a news anchor turned positive psychologist researcher, talks about asking "power lead" questions in her book, Broadcasting Happiness. When we ask dead-end questions like, "how was your day?", it's no surprise when we get answers like, "good". Try asking power lead questions to encourage your children to think creatively and scan their day for positivity. . . .#askgoodquestions #parentcoach #divorcecoach #parentingcoach


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Mental illness disorders affects your mood, thinking and behaviour. . They include depression,anxiety disorders, eating disorders etc.. . . Many people have mental health concerns from time to time. . But a mental health concern becomes a mental illness when ongoing signs and symptoms cause frequent stress and affect your ability to function. . . A mental illness can make you miserable and can cause problems in your daily life, such as at school or work or in relationships. . . . My dear people ❤️ if you are having any mental health issues which disturbs your mind and ruin your life.. Let us help you with it🙂 . . DM 📝 us so that we could figure out from what you're being through. . We're very happy to announce that our therapies are at 15% discount and we can connect through Skype call 🤝. . . . #anxietysupport #anxietyhelp #depression #depressionhelp #anxietyproblems #anxietyattack #trustissues #relationshipproblems #couplescounseling #relationshipissues #stresshelp #stressquotes #depressionandanxiety #divorcehelp #divorcesupport #divorcerecovery #mentalhealthawarenessmonth #mentalhealthcounseling #mentalhealthrecovery #teletherapist #therapiststhoughts #therapist #counselorsofinstagram #counseling #onlinecounselling #virtualconsultation #gaithersburg #newyork


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Considering divorce? Divorce attorneys have a different set of concerns and may overlook these key considerations. An estate planner can review the divorce settlement and look for gaps: 🔹Are you protected from state and federal estate taxes? 🔹What’s the impact of divorce on retirement account beneficiaries? 🔹Are you and your heirs adequately provided for in the event of your ex’s death? 🔹What about your wishes for the children if you pass away while they are still young? #divorce #covid19 #covidlouisiana #coronavirus #estateplanning #morrisonlawgroupplc #family #love #divorcesupport #coparenting #marriage #divorced #relationships #separation #divorcedmom #mediation #divorcerecovery #family #divorceadvice #divorcelawyer #breakup #lawyer #divorceattorney #lifeafterdivorce #custody #divorcequotes #divorcehelp #parenting #childcustody #childsupport


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Ending your marriage is hard. But the divorce process doesn’t have to be! Book your appointment: http://www.divorcelawyers.co.in/book-an-appointment/ Call for any query: +91 90151 70171, +91 97170 44477 #divorce #maintenance #domesticviolence #consentdivorce #divorcesupport #lawfirm #lawfirms #divorcerecovery #divorcelawyers #lawyers #legalsupport #legaladvice #relationshipconsultant #noviolence #familylaw #marriagerights #divorcepapers #divorceonline #divorceprocess #cheapdivorce #divorcelawyer #uncontesteddivorce #howtodivorce #separationagreement #divorcecourt


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EMOTIONAL EFFECTS OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN 👇 FROM 3️⃣ TO 5️⃣ YEARS: - They believe they are guilty for not having done their homework or not eating. Their magical thinking leads them to take tremendously imaginary responsibilities. - They fear being left alone and abandoned. It must be remembered that at these ages parents constitute the entire universe of children and that the relationship in the couple is the means in which they are cared for and maintained. THE MOST DIFFICULT AGE IS 6️⃣ TO 1️⃣2️⃣ YEARS OLD. - They realize that they have a problem and that it hurts and they don't know how to react to that pain. - They believe that parents can get back together and pressure or perform acts that only lead to a feeling of failure or additional problems in the couple. TEENS EXPERIENCE: - Fear, loneliness, depression, and guilt. - They doubt their ability to marry or to maintain their relationship. Through the Helping Children after Divorce Program, we will provide you with what is known through research about how to decrease the probability that your child will experience both short and long-term negative consequences from divorce. In this course, you will learn the following: 1) The effects of divorce on children and factors that influence the impact. 2) How to develop a mindset that allows you to take care of your part in reducing the suffering that your child or children experience from divorce. 3) The in and outs of parenting after divorce, and what seems to work best. 4) Common patterns that pull children into parental conflict. 5) How to cope effectively with the other parent and challenges that may come with re-defining a new type of relationship. MORE IN OUR PROFILE 👉 @helpingchildrenafterdivorce #divorce #divorcesupport #divorcechild #divorcechaos #divorcechallenge #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #marriagecounseling #relationships #marriagehelp #divorcequotes #divorcedlife #divorcecoach #relationshiptherapy #relationshipskills #divorcecommunity #abusiverelationship #toxicrelationships #divorcekids #confusedchild #childpsychology #childtherapy #childmentalhealth #divorcetherapy #emotionalregulation #therapyworks #emotionalwellness


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🍁Fall is the season for balancing, letting go and accepting the impermanence of things 🍁🍂As we watch leaves fluttering to the ground in the fall, we are reminded that nature's cycles are mirrored in our lives. 🍁Autumn is a time for letting go and releasing things that we no longer need to carry with us. 🍂One of the difficult things to let go after divorce or break up is the feeling of guilt. To let go that feeling of guilt start by: 🤎Forgiving yourself. Whether you did something wrong or not, or whether you think that you did something wrong or not, you can’t start healing from guilt until you actually forgive yourself. It may sound easy, but for a lot of people, it’s not. We tend to forgive others more quickly than we forgive ourselves in many cases, and divorce is no exception. 💖 We can’t change the past, but that we can prevent from making the same mistakes in the future. 🤎Another way to forgive yourself is to realize that some relationships simply reach a point where it is time to end. People change and grow apart. Priorities change. Circumstances change. You change. Your spouse changes too. 💔The lifelong promise you made with your spouse was made at a different time and place. Whatever the reason for still carrying any guilt with you, take a deep breath and just like these beautiful trees here in New Zealand, let it go 🍁🍁💖 . . . . . #sparkthechange #regainconfidence #lifeafterdivorce #divorcecoachingforwomen #divorcerecovery #divorcerecoverycoach #divorcedwomensupport #lifecoachingforwomen💕 #lifecoachforwomen #healthcoachinstitute #healthcoach #healthcoaching #mindsetcoach #mindsetcoaching #startanewlife #letgo #togetherweshine.


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To the women reading this: I still am YOU! For anyone in a abusive relationship wether it be Verbal, Emotional, Mental, or lastly PHYSICAL!!! It’s never okay, wether it happens when they’re sober or under the influence! If they loved you they wouldn’t have done any of that begin with! Please remember walking away is okay!! Yes it’s going to hurt, yes you’ll get lonely & miss them, but the fact of the matter and the truth is (I’ve learned the hard way, DONT LEARN THE HARDWAY) IF THEY DO IT ONCE YES THEY WILL DO IT AGAIN!!! . . . . **Yea Women are abusers also!!! #domesticviolencesurvivor #staystrong #abusivebehaviour #coloradogirl #domesticviolence #femaleempowerment #divorcerecovery #lovedonthurt


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First of all, I want you to know that you are not alone. Mums all over the world are feeling this way. This is a time of uncertainty and it is completely normal to feel a little lost. Be honest with your children. There is no way to protect them from what is going on in the world. Have open and conversations with them. Tell them what is going on, share updates with them and how it affects them, let them know how you are feeling as well. Set expectations with your children. Part of the chaos is that they do not know what is expected of them. Set a daily schedule, write it out and go over it as a family. This way everyone is on the same page. Stay active and get outdoors. Each country has its own rules on how long you are allowed to be out of exercise. Use your allotted time to take the children on a walk, use this time to explore the area you live in. Most importantly, be kind to yourself. It is okay if the only thing you accomplished today was keeping the kids alive and the house in one piece. How have you been keeping the children entertained during this time? . . . . . #divorce #thistooshallpass #bossladies #separation #mediation #singlemothers #bossbabemovement #itsajourney #showupforyourself #workingonmyself #divorced #divorcecoach #divorcerecovery #movingon #girlbossmagic #girlbossing #divorcequotes #girlbossesunite #girlbossinspiration #bossbabesunite #helpotherssucceed #divorcedparents #divorcelawyer #divorceadvice #divorcelife #zinaarinze #tuesdayqanda


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Opening the month and taking calls with my assistant❤️ . My little side kick Hugo, always by my side watching my every move. Demanding belly rubs time to time, reminds me when it's time to take a break and get outside for an endless walk and hangs out waiting for a treat, repeat🐶 Probably not the the most productive assistant, more along the lines of a cute distraction💕 . Do you have a fur assistant?


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Be committed to yourself. I know how hard it is to rely on yourself when you know you’ve made so many mistakes. When you know that your depression is looming there in the shadows, waiting to confine you to your bed or couch. I know how tough it is to make a commitment to yourself when you’re still getting to know... YOU. But guess what? Not only do you have to be able to trust yourself and be patient with yourself to live the life you want... But you’ve come this far. I bet you’re pretty damned resourceful. Especially when it comes to wanting to do better. And especially if everything you want in your life, all of your goals and dreams, are relying on you to be happy and healthy to get there. I overcame my own depression, PTSD, sadness, fear, anger, and anxiety without medication even though I came from trauma and abuse. I learned how to forgive myself for my shortcomings, to love myself unconditionally, and be my own best friend, without therapy. It took me two decades to get it right, but you can do it in 6 months. Would you like to see if I can help you? Let me know you’re ready by commenting “I’m ready” in the comments


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👇🏼 If you’re the one who leaves be prepared. Be prepared for an unleashing of rage you’ve never seen. • 👉🏼 When a narcissist leaves you (discards) they feel in control. They are in the drivers seat. They are making the decisions. But when you leave? Nope. Suddenly you’ve got control and they feel narcissistic injury to their ego. They cannot take it. How dare you. How dare you take a stand against them and draw a boundary? How dare you stand up for yourself and claim some semblance of independence and personal rights? • 💥 The narcissist loses it. They amp up the smear campaign against you. They work harder to brain wash the children. They hurl the ugliest cruelest words ever at you. They are so angry you’re leaving them and likely tell everyone what they’ve done. They are essentially losing control. What can you do in this situation? {Best option: go no contact} With shared children: - Stay calm, detached - Communicate in writing - Review what you write - Set boundaries - Be firm - Be clear with zero ambiguity • • • #divorcinganarcissist #abuseawareness #abuserecovery #healingfromtrauma #gaslighting #controlling #narcfree #abusiverelationships #traumahealing #traumatherapy #traumarecovery #narcabuse #divorcecoach #divorcerecovery #lifeafterdivorce #lessonslearnedinlife #lovelessons #emotionalabuse #betrayal #betrayed #betrayaltrauma #narcissisticabuse #narcrecovery #narcissisticrage #discarded #gaslighter #npdawareness #narcrecovery #marriageproblems #abuseisnotlove #narcs


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Self-Acceptance I am learning that self-acceptance isn’t always easy. It takes work and patience. Learning to love myself right now exactly how I am. Letting go of self-criticism and starting to build myself up. I am worth it. I am worthy. I am deserving. Reminding myself to be kinder and less hard, especially on those days I need reassurance. Self-acceptance starts and ends with me. 💛 Art Materials- fine tip pen


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Relationships take effort. Here are some rules that can help improve your relationship with money: . . 1. Prioritize it (our priorities create our value system); . 2. Respect it (do not take it for granted); . 3. Pay attention to it (do not put off acknowledging your budget and your spending habits); . 4. Don’t blame it for your terrible mood (self-explanatory); and . 5. Don’t lose yourself (spend consciously and with clarity – know the difference between want and need). . . Strengthening and understanding our relationship with money can also strengthen our relationship others! #moneymonday #mindfulness . . . . . . #mondaymotivation #mondaythoughts #moneygram #lawyer #lawyerlife #familyfirst #familylaw #divorcelawyer #divorce #divorcerecovery #law #dlpplc #phoenix #arizona


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As a first-marriage, blended family, Darryl and Gwen Smith had good intentions when they wed over thirty years ago. However, their immaturity and emotional baggage led to a divorce. Ultimately, after spending time in prison and losing his family, Darryl became a Christian. God restored him and began to soften Gwen's heart toward him. They discuss with Ron Deal their remarriage and how God is helping them to unpack their baggage and continuing to heal their family. Hear the rest of the story on the Family Life Blended Podcast wherever you listen to podcasts.


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I don't know who this is for tonight, but..⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ everything's ⁣⁣ going ⁣⁣ to⁣⁣ be alright⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Everything.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I know you're tired and frustrated and you feel like this saga will never end.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ You cried while you were together.. you're still crying even though you're apart...⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It's okay.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ It's all going to be okay.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ And even though it seems like you'll never get over this, you will.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I promise. You will.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ -Mechelle⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Sending so much love to you all tonight. There's so much going on in the world right now. Enough to make you want to lose all hope. But, please keep hoping. Please keep praying. Please keep taking a stand for what's right and hang in there. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Everything's going to be alright. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ .⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ .⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ .⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ #movingon #divorcequotes #healingquotes #singlemom#divorcedparents #divorced #gettingdivorced #breakupsupport #divorcesupport #lifecoachforwomen #divorceblog #divorcecoach #divorcehealing #divorce #divorceadvice #divorcecommunity #divorcedmom #loveafterdivorce #hopeafterdivorce #hopenotes #divorcecare #divorcerecovery #divorcesucks


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You weren’t born to be someone’s option, back up plan, or second choice. Keep on going until you find a love that mirrors your’s ❤️🙏 . And...check out the link in my bio to see how I work with clients to lead their best romantic lives❤️. . #shanachow #datingadvice #relationshiphelp #relationshipadvice #breakupbehindyou #shana_chow #shanamchow #relationshiphelp #getoverhim #getoverher #empoweringwomen #divorcerecovery #breakuprecovery #relationshipsgoals #motivation #yesyoucan #amazingyou #amazingfacts #selflove #thisisme #thisishowyoulove #loveislove #loveyourself


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MINDSET. MINDSET. MINDSET.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You hear a lot about it and yes, I talk a lot about it but...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What really IS it? And WHY is it important?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Your MINDSET is a combination of attitudes, beliefs, moods, and intentions; a collection of thoughts and beliefs that shape your thinking and your thought habits & patterns ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ And, of course your thought habits affect how you think, what you tell yourself, what you feel, and ultimately what you DO. So our MINDSET determines not only how we think, what we feel, what our inner voice tells us... but also our BEHAVIOUR.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Our mindset directs the way we handle situations — the way we sort out what is going on and what we should do. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So... why does MINDSET matter in DIVORCE?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Divorce is a challenging time (duh!) so the MINDSET you choose (yep, it's an ACTIVE choice) can 100% affect you throughout. The outcome. And your ability to rebuild, reset and redesign your beautiful solo life afterwards.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ In DIVORCE I see my clients adopt one of two main MINDSETS which I call the "FIGHT" mindset and the "JOURNEY" mindset.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ A FIGHT mindset means it's a WIN-LOSE outcome. I win. You lose. I am the victim and I will not let go. To be perfectly honest, with a FIGHT mindset playing out in a divorce NO-ONE WINS. It's NEVER win-lose. Always LOSE-LOSE.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Too much pain. Too much bitterness. Too much anger for anyone to emerge unscathed.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The second mindset, the "JOURNEY" mindset sees divorce as a pathway... to a NEW life. A JOURNEY mindset allows clients to work towards a WIN-WIN outcome. Opens the doors for co-operation, collaboration and compromise, minimising the pain, and fallout for everyone.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So... do you want a JOURNEY or a FIGHT?


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💜Yes, post-divorce life is an adventure. Sometimes it's mixed with tears, sprinkled with some laughter and if you're lucky, a few really good people to be there with you. ⁠ ⁠ 💜While divorce can be painful, the new beginning doesn't have to be. You can choose to dust yourself off, fix your crown and become the badass woman you always knew you could be.⁠ ⁠ 💜It won't all be easy, it may even feel like you're Dorothy going down the yellow brick road. What an adventure that was!! But just like the character from the famous movie, this journey will teach you how strong you really are. You will learn that you can and will live without your ex, that the sun will continue to shine, that you really do like heavy metal music or that you really despise watching CNN, FoxNews and the like over and over and over again. ⁠ ⁠ 💜There will be bumps and sometimes you will meet a few Wicked Witches along the way, but if you keep pushing forward and stay focused, it can be a period of amazing growth and healing.⁠ ⁠ 💜So fix your attitude, adjust your crown and let the adventure begin cause it's time to Rize!⁠ ⁠ 💜If you are facing the adventures of life post-divorce then schedule your Complimentary Rize Session today. (link in bio)⁠ ⁠ #divorcehealing #divorcecare #divorcerecovery #divorcedmoms #divorced #divorcehelp #divorcesurvivor #lifeafterdivorce #rizegirl #itstimetorize #divorcedlife #midlifedivorce #survivingdivorce #hopeafterdivorce #isurvived #divorcecommunity #loveyourself #rebuildyourself #divorcedwomen #singleagain #divorceafter40 #divorcecoach #divorcecoachingforwomen #newbeginning #youareenough #healingafterdivorce #selflovejourney #selfcarecoach #yellowbrickroad #wizardofoz


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Let go of narratives that do not serve you and welcome narratives that encourage love, joy and excitement. By letting go of “right vs wrong” and instead embracing the fact that some narratives allow us to grow while others close the door and keep us stuck in negative emotions, we can make incredible progress on the path of healing after a breakup. #breakup #breakups #heartbreak #heartbreakcoachmichele #divorce #divorcerecovery


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When marriages end it's because the relationship wasn't working, the friendship too. A few months after I divorced I came to this realisation, I was alone before the divorce! . This was 9 years ago when social media wasn't a big thing yet. If you need support we have a Facebook group to help each other, the link is in the Bio, or you can simply DM me! . You don't need to be alone, take time for yourself but if you feel lonely there's a whole community out there to support you! . #divorcee #divorcerecovery #community #group #help


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A message from our Managing Attorney Custody Queen Kristen: Sh*t Happens. - If you’re moving through a #custodyissue or a #divorce, you are actively dealing with sh*t happening. It might feel like one thing after another, and it suffocates you if you let it. I am telling you right now that you have to face everything head on, otherwise it eats you alive from the inside.#CustodyQueens - Visit our blog on custodyqueens.com to find out more about how to keep it together when sh*t happens.


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